Memories/Thankful

26 Nov

It seems like November 26th is the day to blog about feelings as this is the 3rd time I’ve written on this date. What’s the significance of this date? It’s the date of my first Thanksgiving with Mom in memory care (2015) and the eve of her passing in 2016. It’s also the eve of my dads birthday…

Poco Pine that Mom planted at our Condo in Florida

4 years ago as my dad and I sat in my mom’s room at memory care, we sat mostly in silence. We both knew but not much was said. Dad left and I stayed as I needed to tell Mom something without him there. I told her it was ok to go and that I would take care of Dad. I didn’t know the meaning of those words until this past summer.

Dad had two surgeries last June and was in the hospital for 21 days. As we prepared for his discharge, I made the decision to stay with him up at his house as I didn’t want him going to any transitional care with covid crises. The 3 dogs and I stayed with him for 5 1/2 weeks. I was so thankful that I had a job that allowed me the flexibility to come and go as needed for most of the summer.

I’m thankful that today, my dad was able to come over for Thanksgiving dinner just the two of us. While we missed being with the friends we usually spend Thanksgiving with, it was really nice to just stay home all day.

I’m thankful for the friend that I could call at 2:40 in the morning 4 years ago.

I’m really thankful that I had those last few moments with Mom to tell her that I loved her and that Dad and I would be ok.

I’m thankful that Dad has made a full recovery, is healthy and we get to celebrate his birthday tomorrow.